thank you Jesus for this day, my screaming child, and light up toys

My son hates his carseat.  I don't use that term lightly.  Pretty much since the day we brought him home from the hospital, Pier has fought me 98% of the time when I buckle him in.  This Monday morning was a particularly epic battle.  It consisted of kicking mama in the face, back arching, and snot-bubble-crying. It was 60 degrees outside and I was sweating.  It was very dramatic.

To think, it wasn't even 8 a.m. and I was all ready for my 5 p.m. glass of wine...don't you love Mondays? As I started driving, the screaming started to escalate and I knew I had to act fast if I didn't want a migraine before noon, so I began to fumble around the car looking for something -- anything -- that might appease my child.

Then I found it.  The toy that will make all my carseat problems disappear.  It was a gift from my sweet sister-in-law -- a play cell phone that lights up and makes all sorts of noise (the only toy we have of its kind).  I threw it back there and within seconds the crying stopped, immediately distracted by this lighty-up toy.  I took a deep breath and prayed this prayer: 

"Thank you Jesus for this day.  Thank you Jesus for my screaming child.  And thank you Jesus for light up toys." 
 

After this simple prayer of thanksgiving, I thought about something.  What about all the times that I've fought God the way my son fights me when I'm just trying to look out for his well being?  How many times have I fought God kicking and screaming when I'm doing something I don't want to do?  My next prayer consisted of being sorry for all the times I was difficult when God was trying to put me in my carseat.  I am his child after all, and children don't always do what they're told, nor do they fully understand the rules their parents set in place for their protection.  

Being receptive to God's will isn't always easy.  As Christians, we trust that Christ is our Divine Father, loving us more than our limited human understanding can comprehend.  He wants what is best for us.  "Best" meaning He wants us to reach the highest level of spiritual growth so that we may live full, beautiful lives that align with His design for creation.  And sometimes that requires a bit of self-denial, humility, and yes, suffering.  When things get hard, when things are out of our control, when life happens....what do we do?  We complain.  We want to give up.  We blame God.  How much easier would it be if instead of kicking and screaming, we trusted.  We trusted in His mercy, His forgiveness, and His encompassing love.  

If you think about it, what is the purpose of a carseat?  To keep you safe from physical harm. When riding in our metaphorical carseat, Jesus wants to keep us safe from spiritual harm.  The difficulties that cause us to kick and scream are for our betterment.  If everything were easy then we can't grow!  The struggles in life help us learn that we can't rely on our own strength.  We need God.  If we are vigilant in prayer, complete our daily duties with cheerful charity, and give thanks for the small crosses in our lives, the hard things don't seem so hard anymore.  And just as my son was distracted by a lighty-up toy, we're distracted by His Divine Light and we forget about what we were kicking and screaming about in the first place.  

Pier teaches me something about God every day.  Today it was as simple as putting a screaming baby in his carseat.  I'm grateful for this little boy, even in the difficult moments, because he surely softens my hardened heart.  Please know that I'm praying for all who read these words that the Lord may touch your lives today.  Have a beautiful week!

what I wore Sunday

Today's post is a little out of my comfort zone.  A few sweet friends have asked me to write about my favorite clothes and where I shop, so I thought I would oblige and post an outfit every now and then.  Honestly, this kinda makes me nervous because 1.) I am not a fashion blogger, nor do I claim to know anything about anything in the fashion world and 2.) I feel like there are WAY cooler people who could do a much better job than me at something like this.  But I also understand where they are coming from -- I too love to see what people are wearing.  It's fun! And it's nice to affirm how other women wear their clothes and see how they celebrate their own personal style.

For me, I simply buy what I think fits my style best and what is mom-friendly.  Then I try (key word try) not to compare myself to other people, which is something I will forever be working on.  In three words, I think my style is simple, practical, and comfortable.  I like neutrals, but I'm a sucker for anything in a shade of blue or a vintage floral print.  My celebrity style crushes are Emma Watson, Zooey Dechanel, Taylor Swift circa 2012, and Emma Stone.  I shop mostly at Madewell (usually via places like Thred Up, eBay, or end-of-season sales), but also like pieces from Target, Loft, and Old Navy, while supporting ethical shops when I can.  And I really love buying vintage dresses from Etsy. 

Anyway, I'm titling this series as "what I wore Sunday" because Sundays are usually the for sure day of the week that I have a well thought-out outfit (mass day!).  I also love seeing how other bloggers incorporate their Sunday best into their blogs, so without further ado....Here's my first look:

My shirt is an old one from Old Navy (from MIDDLE SCHOOL believe it or not...).  The sweater is also old (cough cough high school) from Banana Republic.  My skirt is from this UK store, which I bought last year on major sale when I was super pregnant with Pier.  Here is a similar shirt, sweater, and skirt

And because what I wear on my body is not as important as the state of my soul, I want to end on this verse from today's readings:

Endure your trials as “discipline”; God treats you as sons. 
For what “son” is there whom his father does not discipline?
At the time, all discipline seems a cause not for joy but for pain,
yet later it brings the peaceful fruit of righteousness
to those who are trained by it.  So strengthen your drooping hands and your weak knees. 
Make straight paths for your feet, that what is lame may not be disjointed but healed.
HEB 12:11-13

Happy Sunday friends!

bradley turns 28!

Happy Birthday Brad!  I wish y'all knew how much I love this man.  He is the most generous, hard working, thoughtful, and faithful person I know.  He sees beyond barriers and greets each person he encounters with patience, kindness, and humility.   He's the type of person who brings his wife flowers "just because" after working for 20+ shift.  He takes care of his family first before even thinking of himself.   I'm privileged to share my life with him and I can tell you for a fact that he is a genuine, virtuous soul.   He still gives me butterflies and makes me laugh harder than anyone else can! 

I'm in awe at how much Brad loves our family.  He is a selfless father who brings constant joy to our household.  Pier loves his daddy so much...it makes me a little emotional watching them play together.  It's such a gift to know that Pier has someone like Brad to look up to as a role model and father.  

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Now for the birthday fun!  So, I really love celebrating birthdays for the people I love...I tend to go a bit overboard with all the festivities.  It's the perfect excuse to eat treats and do fun things all week long right?! Right. I made a simple cake and Pier helped me decorate ;)...he loved singing to daddy and helping him blow out the candles! 

Brad has been working a lot lately, so we haven't be able to spend one on one time together.  My mom has been in town the past week which gave us the opportunity to take not one but TWO date nights.  What can I say? We're wild.

We ate here for a sweet dinner last night.  How adorable is this place?!  It's a market/garden/restaurant in the Broad Ripple neighborhood in Indy.  Good conversation over some locally grown (and delicious) food -- there's nothing better.  

Birthday Date #2 consisted of seeing a movie at a DRIVE-IN THEATRE! Did you know those places still exist?  Because I didn't! And when I found out about it I just had to go.  Once you have kids going to the movies is a rarity so we have to make it count you know?  Plus, Brad would rather do a fun activity than enjoy a fancy meal at a restaurant, so that's what we did.  I picked up pizzas and a bottle of wine and left over birthday cake.  Then I set up the back of our car for an optimal movie viewing experience and had a little picnic. 

It rained so hard before we got there, but thankfully it stopped when we arrived.  As the sun was going down, there was the most beautiful rainbow left in the sky.  It was like God wanted to give Brad a present for his birthday :)!  

August is not the best month for movies so our options were limited, but we settled on Pete's Dragon. Honestly I had no desire to see it, but after hearing a segment about it on NPR it peaked my interest.  I won't get into a film analysis or anything, but it was a beautiful movie about family, faith, trust, and innocence.  I think it was a bit theological as well, and I really recommend it if you're looking for a movie to watch at the end of summer.  Also the soundtrack was AMAZING.  

We missed Pier on Brad's birthday dates, but it was so nice to spend some quality time together.  Date nights are for reconnecting, laughing, day dreaming about the future, talking about the latest cute thing Pier is doing.  It was the perfect birthday celebration for my favorite person.  Happy birthday to you Brad the Dad...we love you so! And now I'll leave you with a Fossi Family Birthday selfie. 

 

 

 

month 12 | year 1

Well, I've avoided writing this post long enough.  I'm still in denial that he is ONE, but I guess I gotta finish the year strong and knock out this last month-by-month update. Month 12 has been an adventure.  Traveling, teething, ear infections, visitors, milestones -- life is movin fast and keeping us busy.  Pier has learned how to do some pretty fun stuff this month: clapping, pointing, waving, SPEAKING ACTUAL WORDS LIKE A PERSON, and just overall being super cute.  

Some of my favorite things he's up to this month:

  • He's super shy!!! It's really sweet.  When we walk into a new place and someone tells him hi, he immediately puts his head on my shoulder and clams up.  It takes him a while to warm up to new faces and environments.  He's uncertain about anything unfamiliar!
     
  • Maybe this is because he's been sick the last few weeks, but he is very cuddly right now.  He will play with his toys for a few minutes then crawl over to me, sit in my lap, nuzzle is head on my shoulder, and start sucking his thumb.  After a few minutes of that he'll look up at me, then give me the worlds biggest smile and go right back to playing!
     
  • He's starting to point at things!  He will point to random objects and then look at us so that we can tell them what they are.  His favorite things to point out: lights, Jesus, the clock in our living room, Gertie the cat, and his ball.
     
  • He started waving! It's so stinkin cute! He waves backwards, opening and closing his hand toward his face (if that makes sense?).  But he can wave to people on command.  It's the sweetest.
     
  • We're working on a few words right now: Gertie, ball, clap, and Mama
     
  • This isn't really a favorite thing, but he has started screaming (LOUDLY) and flailing and kicking when he doesn't get his way.  For example, if I'm not fast enough giving him the next bite of food, or if I won't let him crawl up to the alter during mass, or if I have to move him away from some type of dangerous things he fights me. Big time.
     
  • He started clapping! And he is so proud of himself!  If I say "YAY!" enthusiastically he starts clapping his hands together and gives me a big grin.
     
  • Speaking of grins, he's giving us the funniest smiles lately.  I call it his cheesin smiles because he squints his eyes, crinkles his nose, and smiles as big as he can.  They are hilarious! It makes my life!

I think books are his favorite toy.  When I put him down to play, he crawls straight to his book basket.  He flips each page and actually reads to himself!  His voice goes through the sweetest inflections and he points to the pictures on the pages.  He's in heaven when we go to the library! (Or when mama isn't looking and he gets to pull all of her books off the bookshelf)

He's eating a lot more solid food this month too.  His favorite foods right now are sweet potatoes, bananas, blueberries, raspberries, eggs, guacamole, bread, olives, and sliced turkey.  He also obsesses over Whole Foods as much as his mama does :).  Oops.

How are we doing on sleep?  Wellll it's hit or miss this month.  Sometimes he sleeps through the night, sometimes he doesn't.  He's been doing this really fun thing lately where he wakes up ready for the day at 4:30 and won't go back to sleep.  He's still taking two hour and a half naps a day, but he must have perfect sleeping conditions (black out curtains, white noise, sleepsack) or he won't sleep at all.  He doesn't even sleep in his car seat!

Andddd it's officially summer in Indiana! You bet I LOVE IT!  The weather during the warm months here is simply lovely.  You can actually go outside! And not die! This week it was in the 60s and 70s and that is simply unheard of during a Louisiana June.  We've been spending as much time outdoors as we are able...farmer's markets, picnics, park visits, long walks.  I try to take advantage of it while we can (because...winter..).

Another favorite outdoor activity: SWIMMING!  Except they were out of baby pools everywhere (literally), so I had to settle for a drink bucket.  Pier or Beer...you wouldn't even know the difference ;).

I feel like a repeat myself every month, but I just can't help but think that each new stage is my favorite....and then the next month comes and it's even MORE fun.  He is full of surprises, and brings me so much joy.  I hope you've enjoyed all of his monthly updates over the past year!  I've loved looking back on past month-by-month posts and seen how far we've come and how much he's grown.  But I this isn't the last Pier update, so stay tuned for more in the months to come.